Rest Isn’t a Waste of Time: On Self-Care and Self-Compassion

{This post is part of the “Finding Spiritual Whitespace Blog Tour” which I am a part of, along with a group of soulful, journeying kindreds. To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE!}

As I continue on this journey of spiritual whitespace, I am realizing that it goes hand-in-hand with my journey towards intentionality. I have finally been able to pick Finding Spiritual Whitespace back up and absorbed another fifty or so pages of Bonnie’s enriching words yesterday afternoon.

I am so glad I forced myself to push on and return to Bonnie’s story, because I feel I made some major breakthroughs yesterday. I have decided to heed Bonnie’s words and take small steps, make little movements towards spiritual whitespace in the form of practicing self-care and self-compassion. I know I am my harshest critic and often my own worst enemy. I put too much pressure on myself, sell myself short, and often become fixated on my failures instead of my triumphs, on my illness rather than my small improvements in health. I have always found it easier to dole out love and compassion to others before doing so for myself. While I read part of Bonnie’s story yesterday afternoon, I decided: that stops now. Now is the time to treat myself as His beloved. Now is the time to begin taking care of myself. I have determined that I want to work on showing myself more compassion, cutting myself some slack, and celebrating my achievements, no matter how small.

It was with this resolution that I headed to the gym in the evening to take a Pilates class despite not having worked out in two weeks. It was with this resolution that I made myself a protein shake for breakfast instead of devouring the last piece of cake in the refrigerator. And it was with this resolution that I napped after driving P to work this morning.

I resolve to start listening to my body again, to treating myself right. I am His beloved; I am worthy. I am God’s poeima.

Bonnie Gray is the writer behind Faith who wrote a book about her inspiring, heart-breaking journey to find rest, which garnered Publisher’s Weekly starred review. I’m taking the journey to find rest through this beautiful guidebook and invite you to read it too.  You can get a copy HERE.



On Soul Rest and Spiritual Whitespace

As some of you may have noticed, I am currently on vacation in Arizona with P. He is here on business; I am here on business and pleasure. (P and I make sure to keep business and pleasure expenses separate; I assure you it’s all quite ethical.)

You see, I have been called to embark on a journey to discover “spiritual whitespace,” a concept on which author Bonnie Gray elaborates beautifully in her book, Finding Spiritual Whitespace. So when I say “I am here on business,” I mean I am here on spiritual business taking time to rest my soul.

In the coming weeks, I will be reading Bonnie’s work of art, her story of how she discovered spiritual whitespace. I will also be writing posts about my journey to find spiritual whitespace, and posts on the book itself. I hope you will follow along and that you will be encouraged to seek spiritual whitespace for yourself.

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Intentionality. Intentionality. Intentionality.

Is it just me, or does it feel like “intentionality” is the unofficial buzzword for 2014? It seems to be everywhere! I am almost to the point where I am sick of hearing it; the word just feels so…vapid. (Personally, I prefer the word “deliberate,” but that’s just me.)

I was having an internal dialogue…with myself… (1. Redundant, I know, and 2. yes, I actually have internal dialogues…several times a day. Hey, I never claimed to be normal!)

Anyway, I was having this back-and-forth debate inside my head just now when I realized: wait a minute. Maybe I am hearing and seeing this word over and over and over because God wants me to pay attention to it. AHA! Perhaps He has been trying to get my attention so I would focus on the meaning of “intentionality” this entire time! (Dear Heavenly Father: the lightbulb has finally turned on. You know how thick my skull can be! I apologize for taking so long.)

All of that elaboration just to say this: I am decidedly going to sit and think about how I can begin living my life with–you guessed it!–intentionality. My hope is that focusing on being intentional will help me work towards achieving my current goals and desires.

This is guaranteed to be an interesting ride. I hope you will stick with me through the ups and downs! What are you doing to live intentionally?